What to do if you hate your boss

“I actually loved my job but it will actually kill your passion when there is a boss who hates you or tries to undermine you,” Craig is not his real name.

At first, the manager liked it, but it changed as it screamed to the team's assistant.

And from there went downhill. She yelled at him in the office and undermined him at an industrial event.

"At first it was a snide remark," he said.

& # 39; Soul Destruction & # 39;

"S slowly and surely things started to change, and the remarks became less distracting, aggressive, hostile and clever."

He says that every day it became a "soul destruction". Craig adds.

"If you work for a bad boss that bothers you steadily, it drops your self-esteem.

"You don't produce the best work, you're not happy, you don't really want more miles."

Craig's experience is not unique. Research from the Chartered Human Resource Development Institute (CIPD) says that in fact, 7{7be40b84a6a43fc4fae13304fce9a2695859798abfc41afd127b9f8b21c5f9c5} of people don't go with their boss.

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Ben Willmott, director of public policy at CIPD, says that in most cases, employees are opposed to managers for perceived inequity or excessive workload.

"It's a tiny thing to be able to integrate and break down," he said.

To avoid this, employees are encouraged to talk honestly about issues with employees if they feel comfortable.

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"The manager may not fully know how his behavior is perceived," said Wilmot. "It will be enough to make a little wake-up call in itself."

But he points out that more serious issues like bullying or harassment should be addressed by HR or other managers.

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Wilmot says that good managers need to know a little bit about their employees' lives, whether they have children or want to go on vacation.

"If you don't care about employees, you won't trust without trust and confidence in your employment relationship."

He encourages people to think "long and hard" about whether culture is likely to change before he decides to quit.

But once there was a problem with the boss, now Damian Beeley, a PR consultant who manages the team at Haggie Partners, says it's time to start looking for a new job if this is a personal matter.

"If you don't like them and they don't like you, it will never change," he said.

But he thinks that having a boss is easier than having employees.

"If there are people who don't like you as managers, it should be a concern and you may want to think about why they don't like you."

"However, if you are an employee and hate your boss, it is a much more uncomfortable emotional place."

Adam Whatson knows what it's like to have your employees oppose you.

He had no management experience and all his new reports were older than him, but he managed to manage a team of eight managers.

"It was foolish to go to a job and it was foolish to give me a job," he says.

Whatson says many of his teams went to do the job and they say they didn't like the fact that was suggested to him.

"They didn't actually see me as a manager. Because they were younger, they saw me as a cheater."

Whatson came back from lunch during the festival and found out that the team went out for a Christmas meal without facing him.

He said it wasn't really a "happy ending" but a story he didn't cope with.

He notified in eight months.

From employee to thief

But if an employee does not meet the manager, the company risks losing more than the employee.

According to Rosalind Searle, a professor of organizational trust at the University of Glasgow, complaints between employees and executives can lead to criminal activity.

"If you don't cope with frustration, you can turn into anger when people try to retaliate, and even despise even when they're in a bad way," she says.

Professor Searle warned, "If an employee feels injustice, he may try to resolve it in a more evil way."

She can steal a business if they think they are being paid in response to a request to do what they think is unreasonable, she says.

Craig found himself spending more and more time "trying to forget things" at the gym or pub.

He moved to his preferred career, but still remembers how work can be a "place of torture."

His old boss said he would have been fired from another job.

He now knows that is not true.