yeno I want to sit next to a big girl. I know this because someone recently moved the placement card from the dinner table and moved away from me. Some of us may wear it as a badge of honor, but the label – “a loud woman” – is never a compliment. Depicts a noisy woman and she is in Technicolor. The sound is over 11 years old and seems trapped in the 80's. Big hair, huge lumps, voice like fog horns, witch, haridan, pub mistress. I don't want to sit next to her when she drinks soda.
How, then, do we relate to the idea of a noisy woman in feminist times? Where did they go? Teresa May seems to maintain a fragile force as opposed to a loud sound. Chancellor Angela Merkel has over thirty years of experience as inconspicuous as possible. The reaction to Germaine Greer in recent years can be summed up as follows: “Shut up.” Can't you be a woman anymore and be a noisy and full pain? After all, women we now think of loudly communicate through performances in larger versions than in reality, such as Beyonce, Rihanna, and Lady Gaga.
There is still some discomfort about being called out loud to a woman in everyday life. Because a) don't care about the people around you (otherwise why do you feel uncomfortable?) B) don't care what other people think about you. To be able to make yourself loud as a woman, you need to be a borderline psychopath (attracting empathy and emotional intelligence)-you must love your voice and take up too much space. It is at least a theory. (“Who do you think? Beyonce?”)
The reality is, of course, that "he is a big man" doesn't exist. Certainly, I have never heard anyone say it. A man can sometimes speak out loud. But the traditionally noisy thing is that certain women areNot what they do but loud sounds are words we exclusively attached to women and often come with the word “girl”. Loud is the code that says to women: “Stop” This is often a sign that women turn around and are almost childish but fairly understandable. “Thank you for taking up all the space.”
But the appearance of a noisy woman has changed significantly in the last twenty years. With Michelle Obama releasing Becoming, an autobiography next week, it's clear that a new generation of women want to redefine the term. As the first woman said, “I admit. I'm usually bigger than humans and have no fear of speaking my mind. These qualities come not from my skin color, but from a firm belief in my intelligence. ”If you ask a woman who wants to be a public speaker, many will say Obama. Her speaking style – controlled passion, warm authority, accessible charisma – is very attractive. She is a new kind of loud sound. Volume is calculated and in harmony with the audience.
Thanks to digital platforms and social media, the way women communicate and build the platform has changed dramatically over the last two decades. Many of the women on the Top 10 most popular TED Speakers chart have a special reach and a lucrative career behind them, but they can't be defined loudly. (Entering this chart requires at least about 10m of views for a speech, so you can measure fairly accurate impacts.) Research professor Brene Brown, who specializes in social work; Susan Cain; Psychologist Susan David; Elizabeth Gilbert, who ate, prayed, and loved; Social psychologist Amy Cuddy was also on this list. They are all speakers that embody the opposite of someone's fire and sulfur public speaking like Margaret Thatcher. Their message is often about how to hear a quiet voice in a noisy world.
On the other hand, it is becoming clear that many women, whom we can think of as rut, are secretly quiet. Barbra Streisand is currently punching a new album at the age of 76. She had a scary stage for many years and sang live in a charity show. Adele? She is the richest celebrity and outstanding performer in the UK under 30. But she was so nervous in the past that she vomited to vomiting. As a result, she strictly controls her exposure to the stage. There are many recent examples of celebrities who have decided to change things by launching an initiative to encourage other women without screaming or drawing attention. Reese Witherspoon's multimedia brand Hello Sunshine, Jameela Jamil's “I Weight” campaign (encouraging people to “weight” life's achievements) and Sharon Horgan's production company Merman.
At a recent People's Vote held in London, at least half of the presenters were women, and many were under the age of 30. They were all amazingly outstanding speakers. Can relay videos). Seeing them and capturing their confidence, it was impressive that none of them could be dismissed as big girls. But regardless of your politics, their influence was shocking.
Especially among young women their differences in style were noticeable. In the style of Hollie McNish or Kate Tempest, people like poets who speak little, make original and passionate sounds. One of the NHS doctors spoke in quiet, majestic anger. The other was an old-time union speaker, who accurately described the crowd as the NUS leader completed with citizen Smith's accent in the seventies. Their style was as varied as the style of male speakers. This change and experimentation of women leaders is what we have begun to see.
I wonder if women's “big shading” is finally happening over the past few years, as they have gained in increasing body training, understanding the expression “fat shaming” and the degree to which such ideas are internalized. Admitted. Samuel Johnson's terrible quote about women and public performances has been around for over a century: “Women's preaching is like a dog walking on its hind legs. It didn't go well. As a child in the seventies, it was common to stop quietly showing and showing off at home, at school, by all kinds of adults. I realized that I wouldn't shout or show off until I got older. You do not necessarily have to be a woman. It's only a few decades that children get as noisy as they want. In an anecdote, many women will notice from an early age, out loud, that this means that they did not welcome the action.
"What this means" is important. Because we think we're redefining what it means to be loud. We began to understand that because someone told you not to do it, you are not obligated to do it aloud. My grandmother was a great role model when I grew up. She can be noisy She ran a corner shop with iron bars, spoke her mind, timidly laughed and didn't bother fools. But she also agreed with the old saying, "empty courage makes the most noise." Modern feminism should strike a happy medium among these extremes. To do this, do not shut up and make noise. There are many experiments that need to be done in the space between these options. Who's avoiding me in the evening? Perhaps you wore too much perfume.
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